A death in the family:
Sibling Loss; a sister s journey....
Sibling Loss; a sister s journey....
April 5, 2018
Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School
A special letter & tribute to the families of the fallen students at the high school
To the families of the children & adults who lost their
lives to a crazed gunman on February 14th/18, a day reserved worldwide for expressing love to one
another, my heartfelt sympathy.
I did not
suffer such an evil act, however my 13 year old brother left the house to go to
a baseball game and was killed by a car on the way. (I ve had a 2 minute video
done that explains the devastation that followed/www.sibling-loss.com).
We all fell
into ‘darkness’ as you have, & I decided I had to do whatever I could to
get back my life. It took years; but with therapy, research and writing, I eventually arrived at a
better place; celebrating my brother s life rather than only mourning his
death. You never get over it, but you can be happy again.
Parents understandably
never really recover completely, we all know. But siblings who took for granted
being at their siblings’ birthdays, weddings, graduations, anniversaries, …..the
list goes on & on, are in shock over the complete change in their futures
without their loved one. They are left with a primary feeling of being
abandoned, being alone, all plans changed without warning, even with other
siblings being there. Left with not knowing how to comfort one another when you
are in so much pain; feeling guilty over any unforgiven misgivings with that
person, wondering if your family would have preferred if it had been someone
else, some other sibling or you, are the tortured feelings that follow. Let it
go as it s NOT so. Find a way to tell one another how you feel, if you can,
& WRITE IT DOWN. Writing was my
saving grace. Pray for peace of mind.
Be together,
cry together & love each other more, as your departed loved one s spirit
will also find peace that way….I believe.
God bless
the memories of Scott Beigel, Martin Duque Anguiano, Nicholas Dworet, Aaron
Feis, Jaime Guttenberg, Chris Hixon, Luke Hoyer, Cara Loughran, Gina Montalto,
Joaquin Oliver, Alaina Petty, Meadow Pollack, Helena, Ramsay, Alex Schachter, Carmen
Schentrup, & Peter Wang.
With my
heartfelt wish for all of you to find peace.
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